Fag hag
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Fag hag is a slang term, either abusive or affectionate, for a woman who enjoys the company of gay men. Gay men and fag hags often share a very close friendship, generally closer than they have with other women or men. It is this close friendship that is the hallmark of the fag hag relationship.
Some would say that fag hags are pitied based on the assumption that their fascination with gay men lies in infatuation, which will most likely never be consummated. This is occasionally true however most fag hag relationships contain no romantic feelings; indeed, many fag hags are lesbian.
This relationship, like most positive relationships, generally evolves out of shared interests and opinions. It offers heterosexual women an opportunity to participate in a gay community where arts, fashion, and literature are embraced and encouraged. The gay community also offers straight women a safe environment to party in relatively free from unwanted sexual advances.
In interviews with gay men and self described fag hags the most common theme is safety. A rich relationship can develop between a straight woman and a gay man without sexual tension. The fag hag relationship allows the participants to separate intimacy and sexuality.
The term "fag hag" does not generally carry the same negative connotations that "fag" would. The term is used, without the intent to insult, by both gay men and their female admirers. Some women (such as comedian Margaret Cho) will proudly declare themselves to be fag hags.
Synonyms include fruit fly and fairy godmother.
Judy Garland has been characterized as a fag hag.
Julia Roberts' character in The Mexican developed a fag hag-type relationship with a gay hit man, Winston Baldry, played by James Gandolfini. Other media examples include the show Will & Grace and the film The Object of My Affection.
The slang terms dyke tyke, dyke mike, or Dutch boy have been used occasionally to refer to a male with extensive platonic friendships with lesbians, but this usage is far less common, as are such relationships.
A straight man who has a similar affinity with gay men is termed a fag-stag, but, again, this usage is rarer.