Shyness
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In humans, shyness is a feeling of insecurity that certain people experience while being among others, talking with others, asking favors of others, etc. In zoology, shy generally means "tends to avoid human beings"; see cryptic
Shyness is most likely to occur in an unfamiliar situation. Since many shy people thus avoid these situations in order to avoid feeling uncomfortable and inept, the situation remains unfamiliar and the shyness perpetuates itself. However, the initial cause of shyness can vary. Sometimes it seems to originate after the subject has experienced a physical anxiety reaction; at other times, shyness seems to develop first and then later causes physical symptoms of anxiety.
Scientists have located some genetic data that supports the hypothesis that shyness is at least partially genetic. However, it has also been proven that extroversion and introversion have much to do with the environment in which a child was raised, and not just its genetic makeup. A child who is shy toward strangers may eventually lose this trait as he grows up, or retain some tendency toward shyness.
Shy people do not necessarily feel the same degree of shyness toward all others. For instance, a heterosexual may be shy toward someone of the opposite sex, or an actor may be loud and bold onstage but shy in an interview.
Though shyness is often seen as a drawback (especially in cultures that value individuality and taking charge), it has its own advantages. Many shy people are good listeners and tend to think before they speak. Furthermore, boldness, the opposite of shyness, may cause its own problems, such as impertinence or inappropriate behavior. This also applies to feigned boldness as a compensation for shyness.
Shyness is not directly related to introversion. Introverts choose to avoid social situations because they derive no reward from them, and may find the extra sensory input overwhelming. Shy people fear such situations and feel that they have to avoid them.
See also
External links
- Observations and explanations about shyness and shy people (http://www.shyness.com/encyclopedia.html)
- alt.support.shyness FAQ (http://members.aol.com/cybernettr/shyness.html)
- Shy and Free: A Site that Transforms Shyness (http://www.shyandfree.com/)
- SHY United- dating, forums, bookstore (http://www.shyunited.com/)
- The Shy Child (http://www.ericdigests.org/pre-928/shy.htm)
- Working with Shy or Withdrawn Students (http://www.ericdigests.org/1997-3/shy.html)
- Shake Your Shyness (http://www.shakeyourshyness.com/)
- shyrelease (http://www.shyrelease.com/)
- The Saga of a Shy Fellow (http://www.social-anxiety-shyness-info.com/)de:Schüchternheit