Pronoun game
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"Playing the pronoun game" is the act of concealing sexual orientation in conversation by not using a gender-specific pronoun for a partner or a lover, which would reveal the sexual orientation of the person speaking. Most often, LGBT people employ the pronoun game when conversing with people to whom they have not "come out". In some situations, where a LGBT person revealing their sexual orientation would have adverse consequences (such as the loss of their job), playing the pronoun game is seen to be a necessary act of concealment.
The pronoun game involves deception without lying, by letting the listener assume a sexual orientation that they would regard as inoffensive. It also involves not drawing the listeners attention to the fact that the sex of a pronoun's antecedent is not being specified. As such, playing the pronoun game involves:
- re-phrasing sentences such that they avoid the need for third-person singular sex-specific pronouns (e.g. "It was decided that we would eat out." rather than "She decided that we would eat out."), often using circumlocution;
- using gender-neutral language such as "firefighter" rather than "fireman", phrases such as "my other half" or "my significant other", or the person's name where it isn't sex or gender-specific; and
- using gender-neutral pronouns that have long since entered common usage, such as singular they, without employing unusual, and thus attention-calling, gender-neutral pronouns such as xe or sie and hir.
Often, people playing the pronoun game regard it as stressful.
References
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- Template:Web reference presenting the difficulty of the pronoun game for transsexuals satirically in the form of a children's song
- Template:Web reference which discusses how heterosexual people also play the pronoun game to hide their sexual orientation in predominantly homosexual environments
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- Template:Web reference which discusses the avoidance of lying
See also
External links
- "The pronoun game" at Everything2 (http://www.everything2.com/index.pl?node_id=806350)